Hey family,
Can I ask you something real quick? When was the last time you felt like you were enough, just as you are?
Not because you hit a goal. Not because someone praised you. Not because you finally got it all together. But just because you exist?
If you're struggling to answer that, you're not alone.
I talk to so many people who are exhausted from trying to earn their worth. They're working overtime, saying yes when they mean no, perfecting their image, and silencing their needs, all to prove they matter. And beloved, my heart breaks for us because we're running a race that has no finish line.
Here's what I know as a psychologist: Our culture has trained us to believe our value is conditional. Do more. Be more. Achieve more. Then you'll be worthy.
But here's what I know as a follower of Christ: Your worth was settled before you ever did a single thing.
Before you got the degree, the job, the relationship, or the approvalāGod looked at you and said, "You are fearfully and wonderfully made" (Psalm 139:14). Not "you will be." Not "you could be." You are.
You don't have to perform for God's love. You already have it. Fully. Completely. Unconditionally.
And if the God who created galaxies and oceans says you matter just because you breathe? That's the only credential you need.
Reflection Prompts for This Week:
1. What messages did you receive growing up about what makes someone valuable? (Achievement? Beauty? Being "good"? Staying small?)
2. Where in your life are you still trying to earn your worth? (Work? Relationships? Social media? Your own mind?)
3. What would change if you truly believed you were already enough? (How would you treat yourself? What would you stop doing? What boundaries would you set?)
This week, I want you to practice something radical: Separate your worth from your performance.
You are not your productivity. You are not your mistakes. You are not other people's opinions. You are a beloved child of God, created with intention, held with grace, and valued beyond measure.
That's not something you achieve. It's something you accept.
You are enough. You always have been.
With love and affirmation,
Dr. E
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